Sexcatcher – book review – Volant (Michal Szatiło)

Sexcatcher – book review – Volant (Michal Szatiło)

It’s been a long time since I read such a good book on seducing Women. And at the same time, it’s been a long time since I’ve read such a weak book on the seduction of Women. It may be a paradox, but the book by the author of the Volantification blog is very uneven. It probably contains the best pluses and the worst minuses of its genre. And it falls into the category referred to as a put-down, or what to do to put girls down. A definition introduced by Neil Strauss in his ‘Game’ so please don’t throw stones at the reviewer – they can be used on the author himself.

Because after reading his work I have very serious doubts about whether the guy respects Women. Just read one of the first stories described in which he tells how, at a party in a club, he approached some girl, took her to the toilet, where she gave him a blowjob with a finale on the lips. Then he left there first with a promise to meet her at the bar and before she got there the type drove off in a taxi. What a no-brainer. Beware of such people. The best moral signpost in a hookup is always “leave her better than you met her”, but apparently Mr Szatiło is too stupid for that. Because if he wasn’t like that he wouldn’t write about Women that “they whore themselves out for the first two years of university”.

In contrast, I have a very positive view of the chapters in which he explains what women’s lives are like and what they depend on. In places, she is very accurate in deceiving them, and she does not do so solely on the basis of her own experiences, but also refers to the classics of evolutionary psychology. Incidentally, she mentions the ‘holy trinity’ (that’s my term) of books, i.e. Dawkins’ The Selfish Gene, Ridley’s The Red Queen and Baker’s Sperm Wars – and this is always to be welcomed.

At the same time, it is strongly fractious how someone can write so well about the principles of relationships with Women and at the same time tell such cringe-worthy stories from his own life. It is embarrassing to read, and the beginning of the book when she talks about her childhood is a complete misunderstanding and should be banned. The embarrassing texts in the book are many, to name but a few: “This is done by every sexual Moses I know, and in front of him, instead of the sea, more pairs of legs part all the time.” or “I had a higher success rate at this than at finding the right ‘Download’ button on illegal software sites”.

In contrast, one of the best chapters in the book is ‘The Attraction Code’ in which Volant explains the whole concept of DHV (Demonstrating Higher Value) and doesn’t just limit it to inner game, or beliefs, and lifestyle, but also weaving buttons of attraction (DHV spikes) into conversation to demonstrate it. And this is the part from which, I make no secret, I took the most notes for myself. You can see that this is advice written from personal experience, although for a book of this type there are not many personal stories or case studies described at all. But perhaps that is better, since the author talks about them so embarrassingly.

When reading Volant’s book, you have to be very careful. The guest, for some reason I don’t understand (well fame?), installs some kind of mess in his readers’ heads. Note these quotes: “I end up making jokes myself about forgetting more girls than you’ve even met.”, “A woman who treats you like shit might as well treat me like a prince.”, “the moment you read this book you imagine me to be three times better than I actually am”. That’s the kind of shit you should always watch out for, because it can spoil your inner game.

Volant’s book also presents a rather interesting concept with the conscious abandonment of the pursuit of better than oneself (both as far as women and men are concerned). Instead, the author advocates focusing on leading others, lower in the hierarchy than you, and consciously working on yourself to increase your own value over time and find yourself higher than them on the social ladder. This is certainly an interesting concept, as it allows you to acquire the skills to lead others much faster. On the other hand, I personally cannot imagine not approaching an unearthly beautiful woman or a valuable man just because I consider my position to be lower than theirs. And, in addition, there is no objective method of comparing status or value. Nevertheless, the concept itself is certainly an interesting one and one I had not encountered before.

And since the book is heavily uneven, even this interesting thought is falsified in the very next subsection, where Michal Szatiło writes that he has a rule of not approaching more than three girls at a party. This is so stupid that it pains me to comment on it. One, it undermines the whole previously described idea of leading others (if you’re higher than someone in the hierarchy then why wouldn’t you want to lead them?); two, it throws the whole idea of social proof into the bin, because by sitting alone others won’t see your superiority (and the author himself writes earlier: “If you don’t show you have value, you don’t have value.”); three, that from interacting with others at a party your perceived value doesn’t go down at all and besides; four – it’s naïve to think that in a club or bar others are paying attention to every person you’re playing with or talking to; and finally five – I wonder if you’d be the second Messi by being able to take just three shots on goal at each training session? Or what kind of musculature would you have if you could only do three reps on a machine at the gym?

Therefore, however positively I may view other parts of ‘Sexcatcher’, this kind of nonsense is something to watch out for. Because silly things like this happen a lot – like when a guy advises against approaching a Woman “if Mick Jagger wouldn’t sleep with her” or criticises the use of the smiley flick 😉 in communication with Women. How silly.

Heading already to the shore – “Sexcatcher” has the text “No chain, no muzzle, no boundaries” in the subtitle. Who knows if it wouldn’t be more apt to say: “No respect, no thought, no sense”. Undoubtedly, this is a position worth paying attention to. But one must be very careful that the highest peaks do not obscure the darkest valleys. For it will be much more difficult for the reader to get out of them than it was for the author to remove this book from his shop.